I want you to know that I see you.
Holding your babe, looking into their beautiful eyes. Noting their cheeks. Letting their pudgy fingers hold — tightly — onto yours.
And when you look around and every.single.person around you is on their phones?
I see you.
Just for a split-second.
Not because you're judging.
And not because your own notifications aren't dinging away in your back pocket.
They definitely are.
But because this is the world we live in now.
This is the world that your baby lives in now.
A world where people are waaayyyy more likely to be looking into their phone screens than each other's — or their children's — eyes.
Here's what I know to be true about that, and about you.
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When it comes to technology ...
This Is Hope For The Weary New Mom
What I know to be true is that you are the one who is going to fix this for them.
Because you're already right here.
Thinking about this. Planning ahead. Knowing that something has to change.
That the way that we use our phones just ... isn't sustainable. And isn't what we want for our babies.
I WISH I had been as smart and as on top of things when my kids were that little, like YOU are being right now.
And THAT'S how I know that YOU and YOUR babe, are going to be just fine.
For today, all you need to do is start thinking about the kind of relationship you WANT your baby to have with technology when the time comes.
Now, just between you and me, this might change.
Like your birth plan might have changed.
And your thoughts on co-sleeping or formula or even what pregnancy or motherhood were going to be like day-to-day all might have changed.
But that change? Is really good! Because it will just mean that you're parenting the child who is right in front of you.
But until that time comes — so today — start imagining.
Or maybe re-imagining.
When the time comes — pie-in-the-sky thinking-style — how do you want your child to use technology?
When? Where? Why?
How do you want them to feel about it?
And then pick one thing, one tiny piece of this gloriously big puzzle, that you can implement for your family before your child is even old enough to know that's what you're doing.
And then that's what your child will grow up with.
THAT'S the world that YOUR child is going to grow up in.
Because of YOU.
See? I told you that you're the one whose going to make everything okay. :)
YOU'RE the hope here!
There's a writer who I love named Anne Lamott who says that when you're writing a novel, you don't need to know what happens in chapter 22 in order to write chapter one.
You just need to put your fingers up in an inch-by-inch square and see what happens inside there.
Write that part.
And later, when you're feeling ready, do the whole thing again.
Fingers - Square - Write - Do - Repeat.
And before you know it, all of those inch-by-inch squares will have created your baby's experience with technology, on your terms.
And mama? Those ARE the best terms.
Because no one knows you, your heart, your family's culture and values and ways, better than you.
So for today? Start anywhere.
If you would like my help in setting this stage, I am so here for you.
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You and I have so much to learn from each other, change-maker!
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The concept of creating a healthy relationship with technology was born of my bestselling book Kindness Wins, a simple guide to teaching your child to be kind online. Because a world filled with tweens who use the Internet even just a 'lil more kindly? Is a better one, as far as I'm concerned.
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AUTHOR: GALIT BREEN
Hi, I'm Galit. (*My name is pronounced guh-leet + means little waves, like in the ocean.) I give you the tools you need to let your kids benefit from the amazing things the online world has to offer them and create a popsicle dripping, chapter book reading (in one sitting!), leaf crunching childhood that they deserve. Welcome, I'm so glad you're here. What can you expect from me? I spill it all right here.