My 6 Favorite Tools For Positive Parenting In A Modern World

Before we get started today, I want to make sure that you don't miss this!

In this article I'm going to tell you about 6 of these tools—why I picked these specific ones and why they're such heavy hitters! Let's dig in.

About those organization systems

Last week I shared with you the 5 organization systems that I had to put in place for my family so that my children could be organized at school. That word "had" is 100% purposeful because by not being organized at home, I was hurting my kids' abilities to be organized at school. That is a really humbling thing to write, but it's absolutely true!

But there's more to it than that.

More than anything else, I want to make sure that I’m not missing anything when it comes to my kids.

I wonder if you can relate?

There's just so much to manage and life is so busy, I often get this nagging feeling that I might be missing something important. I know that when I was young, I didn't tell my parents everything, or even most things, because I just didn't think to do so.

I wish that I could hand you a magic wand—or a magic app!—that could do all of the heavy lifting for both you and me when it comes to staying on top of your child's modern life. But the truth is that this doesn't exist. There is no substitute for purposeful parenting.

That's why No. 5 in that organization list is the ways that your family can stay connected even as life gets busier and busier. You might have been surprised to see that topic on that list!

But if there is a magic secret to keeping your child safe and happy in this modern world, staying connected is it.

So today I'm going to share with you 6 tools proven to support positive parenting in a modern world.

Why? Because of all of the organization systems that you can have in place, staying connected with your child and being her soft landing for all the things she's juggling—I daresay that it's more than we ever had to—is, by far, the most important.

And if anytime is good for a fresh start and a chance to get things right, then anytime is also good for getting this right. 

In this article I'm going to show you the exact tools that you can use to:

  1. Keep the lines of communication wide open with your child.
  2. Meet your child exactly where she is and change and grow with her.
  3. Teach your modern child what she really needs to know to not just be okay, but to absolutely thrive.
  4. And to stay connected and parent the way that you want to, something that I call "Parenting Brighter." 

But before you start trying to use these tools

It's so important to address the fact that your child is juggling so very much right now. To name just a few:

  • Friends
  • Hormones
  • School
  • Activities
  • Homework

All of these are absolutely compounded by the access that she has to the Internet and that the Internet has to her. So even if she's not verbalizing it (because she doesn't know life any other way!), this is a lot for her to manage.

Modern parenting issues include understanding that what our kids face today is NOT the same as we managed when we were little! Click through to read this article on the tools to use to effectively do positive parenting in a modern world.

Regular life + modern life

In the chart above, what I mean by "Regular Life" is the everyday things that impact your child that you are aware of and remember from your youth. They're the things like friends, homework, and schedule overwhelm that you read in the list above.

And what I mean by "Modern Life" is all of the new things that are literally layered on top of what you already know is hard to manage. This includes things such as:

  • Understanding the nuances of the online world (Most of us as adults are still working on this!)
  • Foreseeing how far reaching her online posts have the potential to be. (And the very real consequences that this fact has.)
  • Predicting how her post will be perceived. (There's a vital step between wanting to post and actually posting that your child absolutely needs to be taught. This doesn't come naturally!)
  • Making sense of the very real feelings of FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) and jealousy that social media inspires. (In Kindness Wins, I call this "Greener Grass Perception." You can absolutely teach your child to understand and manage this pesky social media side-effect!)
  • Understanding what advice such as "be safe online" or even "make good choices online" really means. (These are largely undefined which doesn't set your child up for success. Not only that, but most adults define these incorrectly making it even harder for your child to succeed in such an important realm!)

And these are just the surface-level issues your modern child is faced with.

That's a lot for your child to manage! And because you can't realistically take any of these completely off of her plate, it's your job to carry this load with her by making sure that she knows that she's not alone in figuring it all out and that she knows what she needs to in order to maneuver her modern world safely and smartly.

And the best way to do both of these, like anything else, is to have an organized system in place to do so.

Here's what I mean by that.

The problem: So if the problem is wanting to make sure that you're not missing anything going on with your child and this being a far more vast job than any of us realize until you're faced with bigger issues that we can't ignore.

The success story: ... And success is the ability to parent positively like you want to despite how fast paced, complicated, and layered modern parenting is—I call this Parenting Brighter— then ...

The solution: ... The solution is having a purposeful and powerful system in place that:

  1. Keeps the lines of communication open with your child.
  2. Meets her where she is and changes and grows with her.
  3. And teaches her what she really needs to know to not just be okay, but to absolutely thrive.

Because there is no such thing as "fool proofing"

The concept of "fool proofing" your child from anything, really, is a dangerous myth because believing that this is possible keeps you from actually teaching your child what she really needs to know. This is especially true when it comes to the things that your child faces today. There is, sadly, no magic app or wand that works in this way.

So the tools that I'm sharing with you today are the only real bridge, or rainbow, between your problem of not wanting to miss anything that your child is struggling with, and success, which is brighter, more connected parenting and thriving, more connected modern kids.

So basically, I'm giving you the rainbow. :) Let's get started.

Related Note: If I am ever an affiliate for a tool, I will always note that with a little *. This is means that if you decide to that item, I may get a commission at no additional cost to you. Your trust means everything to me and I promise I will only share tools with you that I absolutely love.

How to stop the "we're too busy for each other" issue from returning

Proven Tool No.1 // *Erin Condren Life Planner

One of the biggest obstacles that modern families face is finding time to connect and to be together. I have found this simple rule to be super effective in solving this for my family and I think it'll work for you, too: what gets written down, gets done.

I've tried so many systems, calendars, and online "reminders," but I cannot say enough good things about the Erin Condren Life Planner.

Erin Condren is a mom-run, wildly successful company; and these are just two of the reasons that this Life Planner actually works for keeping schedule overwhelm at bay. The planner is beautiful and customizable and has families in mind. So this is the number 1 tool that you can use to stay organized enough to be able to plan for family meetings as well as regular times to connect and these are precisely what will help you stay on top of what's going on with your kids.

The biggest modern parenting mistake you don't know you're making

Proven Tool No. 2 // *GoFanco Family Device Charging Station

I'm not going to mince any words with this one: the number one mistake that modern parents make is forgetting that you're always, truly always, modeling. This is especially true with technology use, because in reality you're building your screen time habits at the same time as your child is; having as much access to technology as you do today is new to you, too! 

So you have to be so, so very mindful and purposeful of what you're showing your child are healthy tech time habits. This includes while you're driving, when you're (supposed to be) interacting with others, during dinner, and so on.

The one thing that has made all of the difference in the world—truly—at my house is having a set place for everyone to plug in their devices when they're not in use and this is the charging station that I use for this because it's compact, simple, lovely, and durable.

Using a station and system like this works so well for so many reasons including disabling the myth that your phone always has to be attached to you, naturally modeling and living the mantra, "people before things," and creating a system for where phones go at night. I'm a big proponent of "turning in your phone" at night. I go into a lot of details about why I believe this in The Balanced Screen Time Road Map™.

The perfect way to have and enforce modern family rules in 3 easy steps

Proven Tool No. 3 // 100% Personalized Custom Family Internet Rules

The concept behind creating a cell phone contract with kids isn't all that new. But there is a step that most parents miss to actually making a cell phone contract an effective part of modern positive parenting. I teach this in step-by-step detail in my flagship course Raise Your Digital Kid™, but the basic idea is first, come up with your value-based Bottom Line Rules for cell phone, screen time, and social media behaviors; and, second, use these to create a unique-to-your-family "contract"; that you use to, third, enforce consequences when—not if, when—mistakes happen, because they absolutely will!

Our family uses the Custom Family Rules Artwork via Signs by Andrea because it is equal parts customizable, useful, and beautiful. Andrea has pre-populated gems of ideas that you can use in your sign or you can add your own. I love this feature so much! The colors and fonts are also customizable so that you can truly make this perfect for your family. The result is a lovely visual reminder of what your family believes about how the Internet is meant to be used that you can download, sign if you wish, frame or hang, and, most importantly, use every single day. (Yes, every single one! I'll show you how in Raise Your Digital Kid™!)

How to be a positive parent in a modern world like a boss

Proven Tool No. 4 // Raise Your Digital Kid™ E-Course

Raise Your Digital Kid™ is my answer to what do you can do about the state of the Internet, how do you make sure that you're not missing anything about your child's online life, and how do you teach your child what she really needs to know about how to maneuver and be online all at the same time.

It's effective because it takes the guesswork out of what you need to teach your child about how the Internet is meant to be used, how to teach it, and in what order. I walk you through every single step. There's truly nothing else like this out there. It's made up of all of my own research for my book Kindness Wins, a simple no-nonsense guide to teaching our kids how to be kind online, and my TEDx Talk "Raising A Digital Kid Without Ever Having Been One" which were both results of my own cyber bullying experience. (You can learn more about my story right here.)

I've taken all of my trial-and-errors and everything that I know about teaching (from earning an MA in Education and being a classroom and reading teacher for a decade), parenting (13+ years and counting), and the online world (I've been working and writing online for 9+ years now) and I put it all in once place to create this flagship course for you so that you can teach your child what she really needs to know about how to be online and you can harness a peace of mind that most people just don't have when it comes to this topic.

Want to stay connected with your kids? Try this.

Proven Tool No. 5 // The Relationship Booster's Club™ E-Course

In the beginning of this article I told you that I've found that the only real way to keep your child safe and thriving in this modern world is to stay connected with her as she maneuvers this tricky, layered terrain so that she learns what she needs to and sees you as a resource when she needs help. These two things are crucial.

I've seen this in my own home as well as in the classrooms that I've worked in. But what's even more eye-opening is that every single one of my students has experienced this as well. We have all found that it's the relationship and the Ongoing Dialogue™ that are at the heart of being able to do this effectively. Because of that, I've created a second course called The Relationship Booster's Club™. 

Please note: Right now, this course is not for sale.

But a part of the course is my book Kindness Wins is. Kindness Wins has 10 conversations to have with your child about being online all laid out for you.

The Relationship Booster's Club™ was uniquely effective because of my signature focus on connecting with your child because of technology, not despite it so that you can boost your relationship with your child, keep the conversation wide open with her, and teach her what she needs to know all at the same time!

Kindness Wins will help you do this as well!

The modern parenting secret that will change your life

Proven Tool No. 6 //Mamalode Magazine

When I first started blogging nine years ago, I couldn't believe the magic that I found online. A wealth of moms sharing their stories, their small moments, their hard days. As my kids got older, though, something changed.

The lines between your stories and your child's stories blurred a bit and people stopped sharing and discussing what was going on with their kids. This made perfect sense to me because I was feeling this blur as well, but I definitely still needed the support that I found by parenting within community. The old, and somewhat annoying, adage "bigger kids, bigger problems," is true. 

Mamalode Magazine is the antidote to this. They only publish the real deal; the motherhood stories that make you think, feel, and be less alone. Mamalode is a mother-run magazine and many of the writers who you adore to read today got their start there.

So the modern parenting secret that will literally change your life is to ease back into the habit of parenting within a community like you were encouraged to do when your kids were little. While you can't go posting on Facebook what your school-age kids are struggling with, that's not necessarily your story to tell anymore, you can read Mamalode and feel connected; both you and your child are better for it when you parent in this way. (This is also why my courses include a Live Group Chat. We need each other.)

So these are 6  of the tools that I use to make modern positive parenting work for me.

Download the free checklist to see the other eight. Page 9 might surprise you, but it's my favorite! 

I'm not going to say that I don't have to worry about my kids at all anymore; I would never lie to you. They have so much to manage and I'm all too aware of the nitty-gritty details of this from both being a teacher and from woking online and within social media. 

But what I do have now that I didn’t have before I started to use these tools is the peace of mind that comes from having a system in place for the sole purpose of staying connected with my kids and teaching them what they need to know. You can’t put a price on that.

But you can learn what you need to so that your child can not just be okay online, but absolutely thrive. You deserve this peace of mind and your child deserves this teaching!

AUTHOR: GALIT BREEN

Hi, I'm Galit. (*My name is pronounced guh-leet + means little waves, like in the ocean.) I give you the tools you need to let your kids benefit from the amazing things the online world has to offer them and create a popsicle dripping, chapter book reading (in one sitting!), leaf crunching childhood that they deserve. Welcome, I'm so glad you're here. What can you expect from me? I spill it all right here.

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