45 Women Authors Who Stand Up For Kindness

October is National Bullying Prevention Month, making it a perfect time to really dig into what to do about bullying.

This article flips the conversation from focusing on those who bully, to those who take action to stomp out bullying by spreading kindness.

Before we go any further, I don't want you to miss this:

If you know me well, you know that I think that anytime is actually a good time to discuss this topic.

And you also know that my take on this topic is ... non-traditional.

I have found that real change with bullying online and off will only occur when we:

  1. Agree that this is all of our issue
  2. Delve into this topic head on and
  3. Flip the conversation from "anti-bullying" to "pro kindness"

Related: A TED Talk about bullying to show all children ... and their parents and teachers

All of my work is based on these three premises.

Today, I am going to tell you what happened when I reached out to dozens and dozens of authors and asked them one simple question:

Would you be willing to give away one copy of your book for no other reason than to stand up for kindness?

The resounding answer was, as you may have guessed from this article title, "yes."

So I'm also going to tell you:

  • Why I'm creating this list
  • Why I titled it what I did
  • What you can do with it
  • And what it has to do with anti bullying, pro kindness, and you

It's worthwhile to start at the very beginning

In October 2015, for National Bullying Prevention Month, I blogged every single day about kindness that I had found online.

I wanted to flip the conversation from anti bullying to pro kindness.

I also wanted to shine a light on the good that people were doing.

I had a theory that if we choose to focus on and share the good things, the positive things would become so normal, that it would be the negative things that would stand out in our news feeds.

They would seem out of context and strange, rather than the other way around.

I worried that as a society, we had become numb

42% of kids are cyber bullied.

81% of kids report thinking that it would be easier to get away with cyber bullying than in-person bullying.

And cyber bullied kids are 2-9% more likely to attempt suicide than their non-bullied peers.

These are the statists that struck me the hardest when I first started delving into this topic.

They stuck with me because while they saddened me, they didn't shock me.

Bullying stories were in my news feeds daily.

I had a sense of just how prevalent bullying still was even though bullying prevention programs had been around since I was in school.

And I suspected that as a society, we had become so used to hearing stories of online bullying and cruelty, that we shrugged our shoulders passively when we heard about them.

And I thought that this was dangerous.

What I learned

I'm happy to report that my experiment did work the way that I wanted it to.

As the month went on, it became easier and easier to find the positive stories to share. And not only that, but people began sending them to me.

I don't believe that the number of stories about positive things going on in the world was increasing. But rather, my noticing of them became more heightened.

And the only simple—and 100% replicable—reason that this happened for me was that I was refocusing on the good.

And the negative stories?

Well, they definitely still prevailed.

But they seemed absolutely crazy amidst all of the goodness that I was sharing. As they should, right?

My hope was to normalize kindness and "oddify" online cruelty and bullying

And that's exactly what I did within my community.

Taking things a step further

This year, I wanted to do something again to take my focus from the negative to the positive; from anti-bullying to pro-kindness.

But I also wanted to nudge my focus, to our focus.

If I could do this, couldn't anyone?

I decided to find out.

I asked authors to give away one copy of their books in the name of kindness. 

Related: The only book out there about teaching online kindness

Why?

Because my gut said that three things were true:

Most people are kind when they are asked to be.
Goodness begets more goodness.
And doing this could dramatically extend the suggestion that refocusing on and normalizing kindness IS the change-maker in this conversation.

Refocusing on kindness is really powerful

In a world where we can choose to stand up for anything, standing up for kindness is being a change-maker.

And in a world where social sharing extends our message in a breath taking way, we can use this fact as a chance to do something good.

What this does for our kids

Refocusing on kindness tells our kids clearly and directly what we value. The message doesn't get muddled with any others and the directions are extremely clear.

Sharing stories of others who are practicing kindness also shows our kids that there are real, live, successful people out there who value kindness.

And last, this creates a clear line from our kids to role models who are choosing to make a difference.

So what can you personally do with a list of authors who stand for kindness?

Share them. And, importantly, talk about why you're sharing them.

If we spend so much time focusing on kindness and who is being kind, we won’t have any time to give air play to those who aren’t.

Pretty simple, right?

Now another question you might be asking yourself is what in the world can I do with 45 books?!

I, of course, have some ideas for that, too:

  1. Read them. It is so often our words that can thread us together.
  2. Holiday shopping, done. There is nothing like the gift of books.
  3. Donate them. My heart melts every single time a book is given as a gift. Go melt some hearts!
  4. Give them away as Random Acts of Kindness. Can you imagine peoples' faces as you did this?!
  5. Be more purposeful in your acts of kindness and give away specific books to specific people. It is the act of getting to know each other that lessens our capability to be cruel and heightens our ability to be kind.

There are three things that I want you to do right now to take action and stand up for kindness.

First, look through the list below, take in these authors, bookmark their blogs and their books for later.

(P.S. If you choose to read one of these books, drop the author a note and a review. Their blogs are all linked as well. I can't even begin to tell you how much this means to an author. Also, kindness!)

Second, enter this giveaway. I gave you five excellent ideas of what to do with 45 books.

Trust me when I say that there is kindness all around this giveaway. Be a part of that.

Third, once you've entered the giveaway, share it with your people. Because that will be you focusing on the good and spreading kindness.

(P.S. Because I am also in the habit of rewarding kindness, when your friends enter this giveaway, you will get more chances to win. Because why should you be punished for being kind?! Enter first, then you'll see how this works. It's like magic.)

So now, the fun part. Let's dig in.

Aimee L. Salter

Book: Every Ugly Word

Blog: Aimee L. Salter

"Every Ugly Word is a gripping and emotional story about the devastating consequences of bullying."

Alexa Bigwarfe & Kerry Rivera

Books: Lose the Cape: Realities from Busy Modern Moms and Strategies to Survive and Lose the Cape: Never Will I Ever (and then I had kids!) (Volume 2)

Blog: Lose The Cape

"We try to be super every day, but we don't aspire to be supermom because she simply does not exist. We think it's time for all moms to join together and Lose the Cape."

Alice Seuffert

Book: Freezer Meals For Moms

Blog: Dining With Alice

"Alice's creative comfort food recipes are easy to assemble and can be eaten that day or frozen and stored for a later date."

Amalie Jahn

Book: The Clay Lion (The Clay Lion Series Volume 1)

Blog: Amalie Jahn, Author

"In Amalie Jahn's tale about destiny and sibling love, older sister Brooke risks everything and everyone she loves to try and save the life of her younger brother. An early lesson in loyalty, protection, and unbreakable faith among siblings."

Andrea Gribble

Book: The Von Awesome Family In A Digital Daze

Blog: #SocialSchoolForEDU

"Author Andrea Gribble uses warmth and humor to gently teach kids 4-8 how to rediscover precious time with their families while still enjoying 21st century electronics within healthy boundaries."

Ann Imig

Book: Listen To Your Mother: What She Said Then, What We're Saying Now

Blog: Ann's Rants

"Irreverent, thought-provoking, hilarious, and edgy: a collection of personal stories celebrating motherhood, featuring #1 New York Times bestselling authors Jenny Lawson and Jennifer Weiner, and many other notable writers."

Anna Whiston-Donaldson

Book: Rare Bird: A Memoir Of Loss And Love

Blog: An Inch Of Gray

"With this unforgettable account of a family's love and longing, Anna will draw you deeper into a divine goodness that keeps us—beyond all earthly circumstances—safe."

Anne Greenwood Brown

Book: Girl Last Seen

Blog: Anne Greenwood Brown, Author

"Endlessly twisty, this deliberate head trip will keep readers guessing until the very end. The kind of dark, wild ride that begs to be read in a single sitting."

Avital Norman Nathman

Book: The Good Mother Myth: Redefining Motherhood to Fit Reality

Blog: Avital Norman Nathman

"Refreshingly honest, frequently funny, and overall intelligently self-reflective, these voices reassure the anxious and guilt-ridden that 'there is no such thing as a good mother. There is only the good enough mother."

Beth Teliho

Book: Order Of Seven

Blog: Beth Teliho

"Equal parts suspenseful and sexy, philosophical and adventurous, Order of Seven delivers a story that will leave you questioning everything you thought you knew about the hands that carry fate."

Cameron D. Garriepy

Book: Damselfly Inn (Thornton Vermont) (Volume 1)

Blog: Cameron D. Garriepy

"A perfect beach read, a best pick for a vacation or a delicious page-turner to wile away any afternoon."

Carla Naumburg

Book: Ready, Set, Breathe: Practicing Mindfulness with Your Children for Fewer Meltdowns and a More Peaceful Family

Blog: Carla Naumberg, PhD

"Full of wise, playful, and effective strategies ... if every parent picked up this book, we'd have a lot happier families."

Christine Carter

Book: Help and Hope While You're Healing: A woman's guide toward wellness while recovering from injury, surgery, or illness

Blog: The Mom Cafe

"Christine inspires with thoughtful and motivating insights from her own experiences, explaining the value of letting go and receiving help—two challenging concepts every woman faces."

Christine Organ

Book: Open Boxes the gifts of living a full and connected life

Blog: Christine Organ

"Christine Organ not only talks about faith and spirituality, she lives it, digging into each experience with a contagious curiosity and passion ... As you turn the last page of this book, you'll be inspired to step out of your own box, unpack your baggage and weave your own story of sacred connection with the gossamer threads of grace, wonder and everyday miracles."

Crystal Chan

Book: Bird

Blog: Crystal Chan Writes

"Entrenched secrets, mysterious spirits, and an astonishing friendship weave together in this extraordinary and haunting debut."

Deborah Gilboa

Book: Get The Behavior You Want ... Without Being The Parent You Hate

Blog: Ask Doctor G

"Get the Behavior You Want ... Without Being the Parent You Hate! is a roadmap of quick, concrete strategies to help parents use everyday opportunities to create respectful, responsible, and resilient children between the ages of 18 months and 12 years without screaming or nagging."

Ellie S. Grossman

Book: Mishegas of Motherhood: Raising Children To Leave The Nest ... As Long As They Come Home For Dinner

Blog: Mishegas of Motherhood

"Mi-she-gas (pronounced mish•eh•GOSS) is a Yiddish word that literally means insanity or madness, but is used more playfully in this award-winning humor book to describe how children drive their parents crazy (and vice versa)."

Errin Stevens

Book: Updrift (The Mer Chronicles)

Blog: Errin Stevens

"Updrift gives sirens a sexy makeover in this gorgeously evocative read. Compelling and romantic, you'll be thinking about this book long after the last page is turned."

Galit Breen

Book: Kindness Wins

Blog: These Little Waves

"Engaging and accessible, Kindness Wins is a straightforward and nonjudgemental launching pad to help you and your children discuss how to best navigate the murky social media waters."

Heather Davis

Book: Life With Extra Cheese: Being The Ham In The Sandwich Generation

Blog: Minivan Momma

"Her stories will not only have you holding your sides with laughter, but inviting your own parents to live with you. Or maybe not."

Iza Trapani

Book: Gabe And Goon

Blog: In And Out Of My Studio

"A familiar message, but also a crucial and timely one, charmingly presented."

Janet Sasson Edgette

Book: The Last Boys Picked: Helping Boys Who Don't Play Sports Survive Bullies and Boyhood

Blog: Dr. Janet Sasson Edgette; Child, Adolescent & Family Psychologist

"The Last Boys Picked" is an important and relevant addition to the parenting bookshelf. It offers insightful and practical advice for helping all boys—those who don't play sports as well as those that do—navigate the somewhat difficult journey of boyhood."

Jenna Zark

Book: The Beat On Ruby's Street

Blog: Beat Street Blog

"A journey into the heart of the Beat Generation and the complexities of family relationships. Zark's writing is sensitive and highly engaging."

Jennifer Gracen

Book: 'Tis The Season (The Harrisons)

Blog: Jennifer Gracen

"Gracen's third contemporary featuring the Harrison siblings is her best yet."

Jenny Kanevsky

Book: Chosen Quarry

Blog: Jenny Kanevsky, Copywriting With Vision

"Chosen Quarry kept me guessing at every turn. I absolutely loved the strong female protagonist and the fact she didn't suffer from any of the traditional foibles writers try to assign to women ... I read the entire book in one sitting, only raising my head at 2am when the last page was turned."

Jill Murphy

Book: Finding Motherhood: An Unexpected Journey

Blog: Jillsy's Blog

"What a powerful book. An insight into the world of both sides of adoption. I couldn't put this book down until I was finished with it. I found it touching, honest, and beautiful."

Jordan Rosenfeld

Book: A Writer's Guide To Persistence: How to Create a Lasting and Productive Writing Practice

Blog: Jordan Rosenfeld

"A Writer's Guide to Persistence is your road map through the rugged terrain of the writer's path. You'll discover advice and techniques for cultivating a fruitful, deeply meaningful writing life by practicing your craft, polishing your work, and persisting through even the toughest challenges."

Julie Burton

Book: The Self Care Solution—A Modern Mother's Guide To Health & Well Being

Blog: Julie Burton

"Burton's instructional guide to self-care for mothers is full of tips and techniques, and long on understanding and empathy."

Kandi J. Wyatt

Book: Dragon's Future (Dragon Courage) (Volume 1)

Blog: Author Kandi J Wyatt

"This is the first book I have read from this author and let me tell you that she spins a story to thrill anyone who appreciates a good fantasy."

Julie C. Gardner

Book: Letters For Scarlet

Blog: Julie C. Gardner, Author

"An engaging, not-to-miss debut with characters that stayed with me long after I finished reading."

Kate Hopper

Book: Use Your Words: A Writing Guide for Mothers

Blog: Kate Hopper

"Kate is a born writer and teacher, and her enthusiasm for essays about motherhood and for teaching the nuts and bolts of writing so that ordinary mothers have the tools to write their stories is a gift to the world."

Kate St. Vincent Vogl

Book: Lost & Found: A Memoir of Mothers

Blog: Kate St. Vincent Vogl

"For anyone who's ever lost—or maybe even found—a mother. I swore I'd never let my birthmother into my life, but then Mom died of ovarian cancer and my birthmother, Val, found me through my mom's obituary. Hard to argue with fate. Still harder to let go of childhood promises, even when you discover everything you dreamed of being in part of who you are."

Katie Hurley

Book: The Happy Kid Handbook: How to Raise Joyful Children in a Stressful World

Blog: Practical Parenting

"The Happy Kid Handbook is a must-read for parents who want joyful households without all the stress of 'perfect' parenting."

Katrina Kenison

Book: Moments Of Seeing: Reflections From An Ordinary Life

Blog: Katrina Kenison

“Katrina Kenison beckons readers into her world and proves to be an insightful guide and companion through the vicissitudes of life.”

Katrina Anne Willis

Book: Parting Gifts: A Novel

Blog: Katrina Anne Willis, Author

"In Parting Gifts, Willis paints the portrait of three sisters with careful and exacting strokes. All three women are seeking to overcome their own personal and shared tragedies, and you will become attached to each one of them as they make their way back home to each other."

Kim Bongiorno

Book: Part Of My World: Short Stories

Blog: Let Me Start By Saying

"Love. Fear. Passion. Hope. Walk through the many worlds of human experience that live in the creative mind of up-and-coming author Kim Bongiorno."

Lisa Barr

Book: Fugitive Colors: A Novel

Blog: Girlilla Warfare

"Masterfully conceived and crafted, Barr's dazzling debut novel has it all: pass and jealousy, intrigue and danger."

Lisa Dannenfeldt and Liz Fenton

Books: Your Perfect Life: A NovelThe Status of All Things: A Novel; and The Year We Turned Forty: A Novel

Blog: Liz & Lisa

"Liz and Lisa's voices are warm and comforting, like a relaxed chat with great friends while wearing cozy PJ's and sipping wine. Highly recommend."

Lisa Goich

Book: 14 Days: A Mother, A Daughter, A Two Week Goodbye

Blog: 14 Days

"Written with love, empathy, and humor, Lisa Goich's story of her mother's final journey is at once heartbreaking and inspiring."

Norine Dworkin-McDaniel and Jessica Ziegler

Book: Science of Parenthood: Thoroughly Unscientific Explanations for Utterly Baffling Parenting Situations

Blog: Science Of Parenthood

"Science of Parenthood is a laugh-put-loud funny in a totally non-daunting format. (Sorry, every other unread book on my nightstand!)"

Marina Budhos

Book: Watched

Blog: Crossing Over — Author Marina Budhos' Website

"Marina Budhos’s extraordinary and timely novel examines what it’s like to grow up under surveillance, something many Americans experience and most Muslim Americans know."

Rachel Macy Stafford

Book: Hands Free Mama: A Guide to Putting Down the Phone, Burning the To-Do List, and Letting Go of Perfection to Grasp What Really Matters!

Blog: Hands Free Mama

"Discover what happens when you choose to open your heart—and your hands—to the possibilities of each God-given moment."

Rachel Thompson

Book: Broken Places: A Memoir of Abuse

Blog: Rachel Thompson

"BROKEN PLACES succeeds as the gritty memoir of a women who was sexually assaulted when she was young and the author's story of survival will surprise the reader because of its candidness and unexpected ending."

Rebecca Eanes

Book: Positive Parenting: An Essential Guide

Blog: Rebecca Eanes, Author

"This is a must-read for every family that yearns to create peace and harmony."

Suzanne Barston

Book: Bottled Up: How the Way We Feed Babies Has Come to Define Motherhood, and Why It Shouldn’t

Blog: Fearless Formula Feeder

"Impassioned, well-reasoned, and thoroughly researched, Bottled Up asks us to think with more nuance and compassion about whether breastfeeding should remain the holy grail of good parenthood."

Victoria Fedden

Book: This Is Not My Beautiful Life: A Memoir

Blog: Victoria Fedden

"A scandalously funny memoir about starting a new family while taking care of the felonious one you've already got."

Well there you have it. 45 women who are putting their money where their mouths are, their books where you are, positivity where negativity is, and kindness where bullying is.

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AUTHOR: GALIT BREEN

Hi, I'm Galit. Best selling author, TEDx speaker, parent educator, researcher, mom. I'm going to help you raise and teach your digital kids. I've been teaching and working in social media for 8+ years. If you are so over vague, surface level online safety advice and are ready to actually teach your kids and students what they need to know to make an impact + raise a leader, we're going to get along just fine. Learn more about me here.