11 Bizarre Rules That Will Help You Be Kind And Lead People

If you are new here, then welcome. I'm so glad you're here.

I teach parents how to keep up with your child's online use.

And at first blush you might be thinking, "I'm in!"

But wait.

I need you to know two things first.

First, what I teach here is different than anything else you're going to find out there.

It's all based on my personal, unique position of having a masters degree in conversations that teach + a decade of classroom teaching experience and working online and in social media for 9+ years and having been shamed online and seeing firsthand what it takes to come out on the other side.

And second, everything that I teach comes back to this center:

We have to move from taking care of ourselves and our own children to taking care of each other and each other's children.

This topic is too important.

This topic is too important to me to let you start digging in here, and further down the line realize that we're mismatched, and have you dismiss the need to teach your child about the online world because of that.

So I'm laying it all out here.

So I'm laying it all out here so that you can decide if you want to learn about this topic from me.

I'm a good fit for you if you:

  • Want to keep up with your chid's online use (even as she starts to know more about the online world than you do)
  • Know in your heart-of-hearts that you can, should, and WANT to raise a leader, a change-maker, a kindness warrior
  • *At the same time

Is that you?

If so, then first, I'd love for you to try a free sample of my book, Kindness Wins. Click the button below to get it immediately.

And second: the "rules" below are my promises to you.

They are different than anything else that's out there, and I live and teach by them because they work.

Let's dig in.

PIN THIS!

I will never tell you to keep your kids off line—This isn’t realistic and technology is good! You want your child to have the opportunities that the online world can provide for her.

Hand-on-heart, you want your child to have her small moments, to NOT be that kid at the football game, ignoring her friends, staring at her phone. You're afraid that she's missing out on running through sprinklers, eating popsicles, laughing till her belly hurts. But you have to zoom out—if her small moment is there, even if there's a screen involved, then it exists, it counts, and it's good.

Don’t follow the age guidelines—If you wait until your child is 12/13 and then hand her a device with full access and a whole lot of rules—you’ve waited too long. It’ll be too much all at once and she won’t be able to grasp it all. Also, her need for independence is fierce by then. At age 10, she expects to hear your input + observations more and she's wired to listen to you more than her peers. Use these developmental facts to make this topic easier for you to teach!

Most people go about creating a cell phone contract completely backwards and it ends up ineffective and unused. This, all of this, has to be created together. 

When you build your connection because of technology, not despite it, you will have a child you can trust and you will not need, want, or use a monitoring app.

Remember:

1. These aren’t fool proof—your child is so savvy and she will get around them if she wants to.
2. When you use these, you rely on them to parent for you, and you stop making
talking to your kids a priority—this is when your kids become vulnerable.
3. Respect begets respect and monitoring apps do not send a respectful message.

I definitely will never tell you that you should rely on monitoring by keeping track of every single move your child and her friends make online. Not only is this unrealistic and unsustainable, but I know that you don’t have time for this.

—> You are, however, responsible for getting online and understanding the apps that your child wants to use—just one app at a time and just while she's still learning. When done correctly, this part doesn't last long. I'm a huge proponent of parenting yourself out of this job!

There's no shortcut to this. No app to do it for you. Do you really want there to be one? You need to roll up your sleeves and parent through this one.

Truth bomb: A kid child has been taught to be balanced, safe, wise, and kind online can use any app well with or without you. But this doesn’t happen with luck or by accident. It takes a couple weeks to teach and to put this in place. A couple weeks —> lifelong habits.

You worry a lot about the “other”, telling your child to not share her private info with strangers, to only allow friends to follow her, etc. but the real danger is with the people who know her, the ones who are her friends one day and not the next, the ones who are still learning and muddling their way through, too. It’s on your child to learn what to post and not post rather than where she posts and with whom—and it’s up to you to teach her how to do this.

This is the long game: You teach her how to be balanced and safe online today so that she can become wise and kind online every day.

I will absolutely help you teach your kids how to be balanced, safe, and wise online. But the truth is that your work is so much bigger and more important than this. It’s up to you to be and raise the change makers, the leaders, and the kindness warriors. This, too, can be taught and it's what you are here to do.

Are you in the right place?

If yes, then welcome. I'm so glad you're here.

And I'm so excited to create a better, kinder internet for you and for your child.

AUTHOR: GALIT BREEN

galit breen

Hi, I'm Galit. (*My name is pronounced guh-leet + means little waves, like in the ocean.) I give you the tools you need to let your kids benefit from the amazing things the online world has to offer them and create a popsicle dripping, chapter book reading (in one sitting!), leaf crunching childhood that they deserve. Welcome, I'm so glad you're here. What can you expect from me? I spill it all right here.