Do You Have To Know How To Use The Same Apps As Your Child?

Do You Have To Know How To Use The Same Apps As Your Child?

If you’ve been struggling to make unfurrowed-brow peace with the thought of your child using that app — you know the one — despite focusing on monitoring, despite having a cell phone contract, despite dishing out the most well thought out yays and nays to new apps that you can …

You’re probably making a mistake that’s going to cripple your ability to feel like your child can be safe online.

Let me back up.

Every time you dig deep into the nitty-gritty details of the latest app-of-choice for your child, you’re inviting hours of NON-PERMANENT work on your part. You know that, right?

So that begs the question that — I promise — every single parent ends up asking at one point or another.

This Is What "The Bad App Chase" Looks Like In Real Life

This Is What "The Bad App Chase" Looks Like In Real Life

Have you ever looked at the pile of dishes in the sink, the paw prints on the floor, and your ever-growing mountain of laundry and thought to yourself,

“How will I ever find the time to keep up with my tween online?!”

Sure, there are people who who lock themselves away all day and do nothing but monitor phones and research their darling’s latest apps. But if you have a hard time relating to those parents — if you have a day job or other kids to tend to or, um, like to sleep  you’re not alone.

Most of us have precious few hours each week to devote to non-active parenting – and the overwhelming majority of emails I receive from my readers say this is a big cause for frustration:  

How can you keep up with your child’s app use, but not neglect the rest of your life?

Well.

I DID find a solution to this and don’t worry — I’m going to spell that solution out.

BUT.

For the sake of no Fakebooking — or FakeBlogging? — FIRST, you need to see my BEFORE.

Are You Making This Mistake With Your Child And Apps?

Are You Making This Mistake With Your Child And Apps?

NEVER.

That’s when most folks think they’ll let their kids use that app.

You know the one.

Sure, it starts out simply enough. Follow a basic tutorial on “how to keep your kids safe online” and actually monitor ALL the things when you first start out.

But as soon as you talk to a few friends and that first app rolls onto your bad apps for (your) kids list, it starts this … fire.

And the little spark of your first known bad app is … scary, y'know? Like, the gateway drug to app safety, and MAYBE if you can keep your child off that ONE bad app, you can keep her safe online for forever.

Or maybe even longer than that.

And so you find yourself sending your spouse to bed alone while you surf Pinterest, innocently looking for good apps and bad apps. Because no bad apps = online safety, right?

But here’s where you start to encounter a little friction.